I haven't been selling sex toys all that long. I have had a lot of
fun doing it and have been making some good money from it. I have also
learned a lot from those that come to my sex toy parties. Here are a
few things I have learned:
There are still quite a few people that have hang ups about sex.
For
the most part, reactions have been favorable when I tell people about
what I do. However, I was quite surprised recently. One of my
colleagues from some other work that I do made a pronouncement to other
peers. She said that all those sex toys I sell and masturbating I do
makes me mean and evil. She further admonished by saying that people
only need to have sex the proper way i.e. within marriage and the man on
top. That makes me sad to think that a professional helping person is
so narrow minded. The human body is brilliantly designed and wired for
pleasure. The original intent was to ensure procreation of our
wonderful species. Alas, evolution being what it is we have gone on to
pursue sex for its own sake. The many health benefits of orgasm whether
by self-pleasuring or with a partner are well researched. Denying that
part of yourself doesn't allow you to grow as a human being.
People have a lot of questions about sex.
In
this day of information instantly available, it has shown me that the
human touch is still so important. Getting straight answers and
reassurance is what people want. My background as a professional
counselor helps people feel comfortable in confiding in me. I take that
privilege seriously and am proud that I can help someone out.
Women love to get together and talk about sex.
And
you thought is was just the guys! I've heard a lot of stories about
women and their sex toys. One told about how her husband got jealous
and broke her favorite toy. Many others have shared the names they have
given their toys. Others are eager to share how to use them to those
that are toy "virgins". I laugh and share along with all of them.
I have learned a lot and know I still have a lot left to learn.
Although
I have a certain expertise, I still learn a thing or two from my
clients. Learning is a life long process. When it comes to sex, I'd
like to think that this educator is also an apt pupil.
Sometimes you can tell too much.
Although
the sex toy party goers have fun learning and sharing together, every
now and then there is someone who tells a little more than they need to
share. The silence is deafening when that happens and can stop the
momentum of the party. Sex is still a private matter and a modicum of
discretion is necessary.
Sunday 2 November 2014
Why Use Sex Toys? - 3 Common Concerns Women Have About The Use of Sex Toys
To answer the question first about why to use sex toys, without a
doubt, the reason should be for the FUN of it! The same reasons why we
have sex are the same reasons why we should use toys. Whether it be for
solo use (masturbation) or to enhance the sexual relationship between
you and your partner, toys are a great addition to the bedroom and for
those bedroom pleasures.
For many women, vibrating toys are the only way they will achieve orgasms so for them, vibrators are an essential part of their sex lives and a must for their bedroom toy box.
Research has shown that men buy as many vibrators as women, since the female orgasm is the driving force behind the sales of adult toys and men have recognized the positive effect it has on their intimate relationships. After all, sexual gratification is what both partners require, to achieve sexual satisfaction within a relationship.
Let's look at some questions women have about sex toys.
Will the use of toys have a negative impact on my regular sex life?
Although a common and real fear, nowhere is there evidence that toys will ruin your regular sexual activities. In fact, toys are there to enhance sexual pleasure and improve passion in the bedroom. The more women and couples experiment with sexuality the more they are open to new ideas and their sexual enjoyment.
Sexual pleasure plays a major role in a healthy intimate relationship and toys are only there to enhance those intimate moments.
If sex toys help you achieve orgasm then they have a place in your intimate relationship.
Can I build up a tolerance or get numb from the use of sex toys?
A little numbness and sensitivity around your clitoris or vaginal lips is not uncommon but this will be an indication to slowdown with the toy for a while. You may even build up a tolerance to the toys you own so it is good practice to not use the toys too often or, as an alternative, you can try new and different toys. As long as you don't fall into a habit but rather mix things up, then you'll be fine.
Sex toys may threaten my partner.
In a negative sex culture there are negative reactions to toys but more commonly, most men love toys. They love to watch their partners use them and they love to participate. With the latest in toy technology, many toys are designed too be used by both partners, and to enhance mutual stimulation and satisfaction. The key here is communication. Discuss with your partner what you like and introduce toys that both of you agree on and feel comfortable with.
If toys are part of your sexuality then be upfront with your partner and let them know you enjoy using them. For the most part, they will not feel threatened but would rather be aroused because it tells them you are sexually mature and comfortable with your own sexuality.
Why use sex toys you ask again? The answer is all of the above and toys should be enjoyed and welcomed into a loving intimate relationship. The pleasures far out ways any negative opinions.
For many women, vibrating toys are the only way they will achieve orgasms so for them, vibrators are an essential part of their sex lives and a must for their bedroom toy box.
Research has shown that men buy as many vibrators as women, since the female orgasm is the driving force behind the sales of adult toys and men have recognized the positive effect it has on their intimate relationships. After all, sexual gratification is what both partners require, to achieve sexual satisfaction within a relationship.
Let's look at some questions women have about sex toys.
Will the use of toys have a negative impact on my regular sex life?
Although a common and real fear, nowhere is there evidence that toys will ruin your regular sexual activities. In fact, toys are there to enhance sexual pleasure and improve passion in the bedroom. The more women and couples experiment with sexuality the more they are open to new ideas and their sexual enjoyment.
Sexual pleasure plays a major role in a healthy intimate relationship and toys are only there to enhance those intimate moments.
If sex toys help you achieve orgasm then they have a place in your intimate relationship.
Can I build up a tolerance or get numb from the use of sex toys?
A little numbness and sensitivity around your clitoris or vaginal lips is not uncommon but this will be an indication to slowdown with the toy for a while. You may even build up a tolerance to the toys you own so it is good practice to not use the toys too often or, as an alternative, you can try new and different toys. As long as you don't fall into a habit but rather mix things up, then you'll be fine.
Sex toys may threaten my partner.
In a negative sex culture there are negative reactions to toys but more commonly, most men love toys. They love to watch their partners use them and they love to participate. With the latest in toy technology, many toys are designed too be used by both partners, and to enhance mutual stimulation and satisfaction. The key here is communication. Discuss with your partner what you like and introduce toys that both of you agree on and feel comfortable with.
If toys are part of your sexuality then be upfront with your partner and let them know you enjoy using them. For the most part, they will not feel threatened but would rather be aroused because it tells them you are sexually mature and comfortable with your own sexuality.
Why use sex toys you ask again? The answer is all of the above and toys should be enjoyed and welcomed into a loving intimate relationship. The pleasures far out ways any negative opinions.
Sex Toys - A Guide For Beginners
Sex toys have been around in one form or another for hundreds of
years but they are becoming more popular than ever in modern day
society. Often referred to as marital aids, adult toys facilitate sexual
pleasure for couples or for solo use. A recent study of the Temptations
Direct website purchaser figures illustrates that the proportion of
women and men buying adult toys is a fairly even split with 52% of women
and 48% of men being consumers. If you are new to marital aids and want
to try them out for the first time to heighten sexual satisfaction and
spice up your bedroom activities but are unsure what sort of toy to buy
this guide could help you to make a decision.
What type of sex toy is the best to start off with?
Which sex toy to start with is one of the first things to consider when thinking about the potential purchase of an adult toy? Adult toys come in many different guises: dildos, cock rings, anal sex toys, male and female sex pumps, sex dolls, strap ons and vibrators to name but a few. If you want to experience a penetrative sex toy for the first time it is a good idea to try something that has some degree of flexibility such as a jelly dildo. Non penetrative adult toys such as cock rings that are made of silicon or rubber have some give in them and can help to prolong an erection which is firmer and fuller that can lead to increased sexual satisfaction for both parties. These cock rings have far more flexibility than rigid metal cock rings, which cause considerable restriction to the wearer.
Size and cost matters
Other important factors to consider are size and cost. Start small and work up to bigger martial aids when you are more experienced. Mini vibrators deliver a fantastic orgasm but are small enough to be transported just about anywhere. You also do not want to spend a considerable amount on your first purchase if you are unsure whether you will enjoy the experience of a sex toy. Small vibrators start from as low as £4, jelly dildos are anything from £10 and cock rings retail from as little as £2 and therefore do not result in a considerable outgoing.
Use sexual lubricants
If you are a beginner to penetrative adult toys it is always advisable to use a sexual lubricant. This is especially important in the use of anal sex toys as neither the anus nor the rectum naturally produce their own lubrication so it is imperative that anal lubrication is used for more pleasurable and comfortable anal sex toy pursuits. Moreover, some anal gels and sprays are specifically designed to condition the tissues surrounding the anus and relax the anal muscles, therefore making penetration considerably easier. Anal finger stimulators are ideal for first timers to anal play as not only are they small and inexpensive but they are often made of soft silicone making penetration far more comfortable.
Sex toy cleaner
On purchasing your adult toy you should also contemplate buying a sex toy cleaner. Cheap to buy, this additional item should be utilised immediately after adult toy use to keep it clean. Safe, effective and ant-bacterial, marital aid cleaners help to prevent the spread of germs and bacteria and help to keep your adult toy last for longer.
What type of sex toy is the best to start off with?
Which sex toy to start with is one of the first things to consider when thinking about the potential purchase of an adult toy? Adult toys come in many different guises: dildos, cock rings, anal sex toys, male and female sex pumps, sex dolls, strap ons and vibrators to name but a few. If you want to experience a penetrative sex toy for the first time it is a good idea to try something that has some degree of flexibility such as a jelly dildo. Non penetrative adult toys such as cock rings that are made of silicon or rubber have some give in them and can help to prolong an erection which is firmer and fuller that can lead to increased sexual satisfaction for both parties. These cock rings have far more flexibility than rigid metal cock rings, which cause considerable restriction to the wearer.
Size and cost matters
Other important factors to consider are size and cost. Start small and work up to bigger martial aids when you are more experienced. Mini vibrators deliver a fantastic orgasm but are small enough to be transported just about anywhere. You also do not want to spend a considerable amount on your first purchase if you are unsure whether you will enjoy the experience of a sex toy. Small vibrators start from as low as £4, jelly dildos are anything from £10 and cock rings retail from as little as £2 and therefore do not result in a considerable outgoing.
Use sexual lubricants
If you are a beginner to penetrative adult toys it is always advisable to use a sexual lubricant. This is especially important in the use of anal sex toys as neither the anus nor the rectum naturally produce their own lubrication so it is imperative that anal lubrication is used for more pleasurable and comfortable anal sex toy pursuits. Moreover, some anal gels and sprays are specifically designed to condition the tissues surrounding the anus and relax the anal muscles, therefore making penetration considerably easier. Anal finger stimulators are ideal for first timers to anal play as not only are they small and inexpensive but they are often made of soft silicone making penetration far more comfortable.
Sex toy cleaner
On purchasing your adult toy you should also contemplate buying a sex toy cleaner. Cheap to buy, this additional item should be utilised immediately after adult toy use to keep it clean. Safe, effective and ant-bacterial, marital aid cleaners help to prevent the spread of germs and bacteria and help to keep your adult toy last for longer.
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